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Going from a easy online ‘like’ to a protracted distance relationship and a wedding isn’t any small feat! When Victoria first observed James on Christian Connection she knew what she was on the lookout for and what she wished her courting profile to say about her. Earlier than beginning her search, she was sure of 1 factor: “I made a decision that I used to be going to be intentional and be part of a Christian courting website.” She knew of Christian connection and thought, “let me give it a strive. What have I obtained to lose?” She had picked the proper second to attach with James, although she didn’t know that when she joined. James had been a Christian Connection member for a while: “My journey was a bit longer… On and off. The truth is, once I was coming in the direction of the tip of utilizing it, that’s when Victoria and I met…”
James was additionally intentional about what he was on the lookout for. “I used to be popping out of a earlier marriage,” he mentioned, “I did wish to remarry. And I wished to be a Christian. So I assumed, I don’t wish to waste my time form of fishing round on different websites. I do know what I’m on the lookout for.” He joined Christian Connection as a result of to satisfy individuals who had been “real about their religion.”
Their priorities for his or her courting profiles had been comparable: to “let individuals know that I’m severe about Christ. That was simply actually essential for me,” mentioned Victoria. “I favored the truth that speaking about your religion was evident,” mentioned James, “it was it was included within the course of. … on among the different websites, and there wasn’t at all times actually an area for that.”
Victoria had solely been a Christian Connection member when she contacted James: “She despatched me slightly coronary heart slightly like,” he remembers. And he was fast to reply: “After I’d learn the profile, I appeared on the profile image, and her eyes actually stood out to me. So yeah, it was it was God and her eyes. She loves God and he or she has good brown eyes.”
Victoria had observed James’s images too: “naturally all of us simply have a look at footage first, don’t we?” she mentioned. “It was evident that that God was in his life, that was clear, however then there was additionally a coolness…. And likewise, it was good taking a look at his footage… I favored the number of footage.”
Their connection accelerated after they started a protracted message alternate one New 12 months’s Eve: “As soon as our dialog was flowing… this severe ingredient of God, however with jokes and laughter in. It was simply so good, wasn’t it?” remembers Victoria.
“I bear in mind laughing so much,” says James, “Laughing out loud studying messages, simply sat in my flat on my own. Preparing for preparing for church as a result of it was a there was a New 12 months’s Eve service. And never desirous to go as a result of I used to be simply having fun with the dialog a lot.”
As their connection developed, they spent hours on telephone and video calls. Victoria remembers: “We had been on the telephone for lengthy as a result of James is from London and I used to be from Manchester, so it wasn’t as fast and simple for us to satisfy… It was very nice that we had that point, connecting reasonably than discovering this exercise or discovering that exercise. It was simply type of uncooked, when it comes to that attending to know one another.”
A while handed earlier than they grew to become ‘official. “I didn’t simply dive in,” says James, “We had been attending to know one another, we had been weighing up: okay, is that this individual proper for me? We’re having an excellent time we’re happening dates… However is that this the one I’m going to decide to?” He concluded she was. “I used to be serious about the issues I would like in a girl and Victoria was ticking all of those containers. I made a decision: okay, I’m dedicated to this and I’m able to say that. I wasn’t clearly 100% certain that Victoria was going to say sure…”
Their relationship deepened and James determined to suggest. “I made a decision Valentine’s Day 2023… I needed to begin getting issues so as, however nonetheless be fairly mysterious about it…. getting approval of the ring with out her realizing. So I requested her daughter – my stepdaughter – what she considered my ring selections and concepts.” And he started to plan the massive occasion. “I’d additionally spoken to good associates of ours… And I informed them what my intention was. So we had been going to go to the restaurant I first took her to the primary time we dated in Manchester… We had invited them with the below the guise of a Valentine’s Day double date.”
Victoria remembers her shock. “I remembered that I wanted to say sure as a result of I used to be so… swept up within the second. As ladies we naturally we take into consideration what’s that second gonna be like when somebody proposes to me… After which I used to be actually in that second, and it was simply… Oh my goodness.” And she or he provides, “In fact it was sure.”
They determined to get married in August. Victoria took the lead in designing the day. “It was a tremendous day,” James says. “What it struck in me was an appreciation for her creativity… there have been a couple of occasions I turned to note, ‘I’m at my marriage ceremony. I’m having such a tremendous time, and it’s my marriage ceremony!’ Among the best weddings I’ve ever been to – and it’s my marriage ceremony.”
Victoria remembers, “Like James mentioned, I’m fairly inventive. And I actually simply beloved it… I’m going 100 miles an hour, whereas James is extra like 20… I’ve obtained a daughter. Being a single guardian, you simply study to only get on with issues and get issues achieved. And that’s one thing that I’ve needed to study – permitting James into this area and to do issues and you recognize, to only let go slightly bit. The marriage was lovely – over the truth that it rained. It rained just about all day…”
Since their marriage, James says “one factor I’ve actually loved is being intentional about nonetheless courting… that Victoria has coined ‘protected time’. And a minimum of as soon as per week, we can have a while within the week the place it’s our time.”
“It was so essential, as a result of we’re each so busy,” Victoria provides, “James educating, and I’m in social work and such demanding jobs… I assumed I used to be going to wrestle way more with that adjustment… However I really adore it…one of many issues that that I actually get pleasure from about being a spouse is serving my husband, like, I really like to do this.”
They each get pleasure from making their life as a couple. “I really like that I serve God with my husband… simply being in church and as worshipping God collectively, you recognize, as one earlier than God,” says Victoria. “We serve in ministry collectively.”
“Being in a Christian marriage, the place God is within the centre,” says James, of what he appreciates. “We invite the Holy Spirit into our house, with prayers with worship… everyday, we will we will discuss God, we will discuss Scripture. Simply having that consolation in my house, in a Christian marriage, in a Christian family, I actually admire that.”
As for the what they’d advise single Christians who’re on the lookout for an enduring connection, Victoria says, “It simply takes you discovering that one. You don’t want hundreds and a great deal of nice potentials. It simply takes one and provides it a strive… And don’t quit hope. God needs to bless and God needs to provide the wishes of your coronary heart. For some individuals, it simply looks like that’s the longest journey however you simply don’t know what’s across the nook.” She provides, “I used to be simply on the level the place I mentioned, I simply need what God needs for me. And I feel it was a real launch into God – do what you wish to do. And I feel that’s when it allowed James to return into my life.”
James advises: “Preserve God concerned. Preserve him on the centre, stroll with Him. And if he says Cease, cease, if he says Decelerate, decelerate, if he says go left, go left. Simply actually attempt to hearken to the knowledge and the steering of the Holy Spirit. Be intentional. Know what you need.”
He additionally suggests some sincere reflection: “If there are stuff you’ve started working on, work on them… spend a while genuinely engaged on yourself, getting your own home so as, getting your relationship with God so as. After which so whenever you step into your new courting relationship, you’re bringing, you’re bringing one thing to the desk, and also you’re including worth to that individual’s life, you’re being a blessing.”
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